No, seriously, it is.

I can hear you voicing your disagreement from here…

” No it’s not, it’s incredibly hard, and it’s never worked long-term for me”.

Ok, let me rephrase…

The technical process of weight loss is easy.

It’s as simple as, eat these food’s and don’t eat those. Plus add in a bit of exercise.

Sounds simple, but it’s not.

It’s a fact, 99% of people will fail at long-term weight loss!

Now you know that very sad statistic, and before we go any further, you must decide if you really, really, desperately want to lose weight and improve your health or not?

Losing weight is hard work and if you are not 100% committed to your goal, then success is not very likely.

You have to realise, this maybe your best ever chance of weight loss success. This is not like any other weight loss advice out there. It tells it how it is, it’s not afraid to hurt your feelings and to be honest, it might be the exact thing you need to push you out of your comfort zone and get you to take action.

Ask yourself, do you want to be part of the exclusive 1% of people who know how to lose weight and keep it off?

If yes, are you prepare for a rough ride,as losing weight is not easy.

It’s going to take…

  • Determination
  • Willpower
  • Sacrifice
  • Change
  • Patience
  • Strong focus
  • Desire

But you already know that don’t you?

Time to make a decision…

You have to decide right now, once and for all, if you really want to improve your health…

I can give you all the facts under the sun, but only you know where you’re at health-wise and only you can decide when enough if is enough and when it’s time to do something about it.

Ask yourself right now, how much do you want to…

  • Fit into your favourite jeans again?
  • Wake up feeling energised and ready to conquer your day?
  • Set a good example for your kids?
  • Improve your health rather than feeling sick and tired all the time?
  • Smile when looking in the mirror?
  • Improve your energy levels so you can play with your kids?

If it’s only a half-hearted yes, then don’t waste your time reading any further.

If it’s a full on 100%, yes I want to change my life and will do what-ever it takes, then keep reading.

Here’s the NO B.S. pull no punches truth about weight loss and why 99% of people fail.

Proceed with caution, it’s guaranteed to offend.

And, I dare you to read to the very end.

There are two reasons diets will never work long-term for 99% of the population…

The first reason is…

People are LAZY!

  • Many people lack will power
  • They will make time an excuse for eating badly
  • They are too lazy to set good examples for their kids
  • Some are even too lazy to even care
  • 99% of people are too lazy to get off their butt and do something about it.

Many believe life has failed them and they have accepted a life of being average, and that being over-weight and living a life of struggle is the norm.

This is not because life has failed them, it’s because they have given up trying in life.

Told you, you might get offended.

And I meant to, as some hard-hitting blunt truths might just be enough to get you angry enough to get the ball rolling, or for you to hit the unsubscribe button and make one more excuse for your life to remain the same.

Yes, life can be hard, extremely hard at times, but anything worthwhile takes effort, persistence and determination.

Laziness is a state of mind in which the person is mostly defeated before they even start.

Personally, if someone said I was lazy and spoke to me like that, I would get extremely angry and determined to go out to prove them wrong.

Your choice. What do you choose?

Either way, it’s no skin of my back.

Change your mindset, change your life or unsubscribe

As mentioned, I fully realise only one out of every hundred will do this.

Question is, are you the type to take personal offense, or the type of person that gets determined and who takes action on a challenge.

The second reason is…

People just want to feel good

  • They want to feel good after a s#*!!y day at the office
  • They want to feel good and drown their misery after a broken relationship
  • They eat food to cover up their loneliness
  • Their life is a constant struggle and they want just one thing in their lives to feel good

Ice cream, chocolate, pizza, donuts and cake are all feel good foods. And, when life isn’t going right, they make a good replacement.

This is a hard one to overcome, I’ve been there myself. When you feel nothing in your life is good, you search for things that fill the void.

  • Food – normally too much and all the bad stuff
  • Sex – the destroyer of lives and families
  • Gambling
  • Porn

All additions have harmful downsides and end up hurting everyone involved.

Swap your bad addictions with good ones…

  • Exercise
  • Adventure
  • Travel
  • Friends
  • Hobbies
  • Sport
  • Pets

How to lose weight

Weight Loss facts

Unless you’ve been living under a rock, we’ve all seen that sugars, preservatives, bad fats, excessive salt is bad for us.

Big Deal, no one seems to care about that stuff.

What they do care about is…

  • Convenience
  • Price
  • Taste
  • Time

As a consequence of going the easy option, people end up suffering from innumerable crippling diseases, which ends up limiting their quality of life or worse still, ending it.

Were you aware that our top three killers are linked to being overweight alone?

  1. Cancer
  2. Heart attacks
  3. Diabetes

And our kids are likely to live shorter lives than us because we have handed down our head in the sand attitude and stupidity. Is that what you want for your kids?

Don’t you owe it to your kids to get your act into gear, lead by example and give them a healthy upbringing?Healthy eating and a bit of exercise really isn’t that hard. It’s a habit, just like eating badly is a habit. And, any habit can be learned.

Yes, some people have REAL medical conditions which make weight loss harder, but nothings impossible if you really want it.

Example: My cousin once said to me, “I have a slow Thyroid, that’s why I’m over weight”. Even those with underactive Thyroids can still lose weight. Just ask the ones that do it.


It’s time to start a new life saying – I don’t make excuses, I make things happen.

Here’s what you will need in order to succeed in your weight loss goal…

Will Power

Imagine it’s raining and your legs are sore from yesterday’s walk, what do you do?

Assuming you’re one of the people still reading with us, this is the start of your health journey – one that actually works.

For your answer, I want you to send me your answer and commitment via this email support@xtlextremeliving.com

Yes, I want you to actually email me. No one ever does that on the internet. And guess what, I promise to respond.

What’s your answer, send it now…

Plan Your Day

I just read an article from the Australian National University stating 20% of the population aged between 25 to 54 years old, don’t have time to exercise and eat healthy foods.

What a load of crap! Not the article, the excuses.

These people are one or more of the following…

  • Poor time managers
  • Have their priorities in the wrong place
  • Or just plain lazy

Yes I know that’s harsh and blunt, and so it should be. Our health is our most important priority and for people to make excuses because of laziness just doesn’t cut it.

And I don’t mind if they unsubscribe, because they were not going to doing anything about their health anyway.

We all have the same amount of time and if you want this, get up an hour earlier and make some changes. Plan your day around your health and make it your priority.


As mentioned, weight loss is hard and will require determination and dedication to keep going when you don’t want to.

Forget the failures of the past, keep you mind on your new goal and why you are doing this and never give up.


You will have to make sacrifices, favourite comfort foods and drinks, TV shows, spur of the moment snack foods.


Up until now, your old habits have not served you well, so be prepared to change them for healthier ones. This is easier said than done, as no one likes change. Even so, stick with your new habits for at least 21 days until they start to form new neural pathways at which time, the pressure of change will start to abate.


All good things take time. Don’t expect miracles overnight, give it time.


We all need help at times. Some days, I don’t want to go and exercise and would rather stay in bed. These are the days where it is good to have a cattle prod (my wife) to kick me out of bed.

If your spirit is low, call a friend to help motivate you or better still do it with you.


Always keep your eye on the goal. When your energy or enthusiasm is low, remind yourself why you are doing this. If you have a bad day and fall off the wagon, shake it off, don’t give yourself a hard time and start again.


You have to make your desire so strong, it becomes unbreakable. Constantly keep your desire at the forefront of your mind and remember to celebrate your little wins. Healthy celebrations of course.

Let’s talk some common sense…

I know some people who bust their gut at the gym, only to go home and bake cakes, cook unhealthy meals and then wonder why they aren’t losing weight.

Really, are people that uneducated to not know sugar is bad for weight gain?

Once you make a commitment towards losing weight, you also have to commit to educating yourself about what’s good for you and what’s not. Very soon, depending on your dedication to your goal, your whole world view on health will change.

Before this, you may have not even seen the signs around you regarding health, but now a part of your brain will start to see things you have never seen before. And, this is a very good thing.

You will start to look at every piece of food in a different way.

Some people are just too lazy to care…about anything

Sad to say, but some people can’t be helped, they have given up on life and won’t go out of their way to help themselves or their kids. And, it’s highly unlikely they would have even reached this far in this article.

Avoid these like the plague…

Sugar is a drug, just like heroin, cocaine or marijuana.

Sure, its’ not illegal, but just as addictive and extremely harmful to your health.

  • Diabetes
  • Weight gain and obesity
  • Heart disease
  • Energy highs and lows
  • Risk of cancer
  • Increase chance of depression
  • Cellular aging
  • Skin aging
  • Dental hygiene
  • And the list goes on…

And if those health risks aren’t bad enough, add to it, the lack of self-esteem bought about from a poor self-image


Chemicals are added to foods to improve their taste, colour, and look. Some of these additives also deter the growth of mold and bacteria – which extend the foods shelf life.

Problem is there are also disadvantages to consuming food additives, such as…

  • Food allergies such as eczema and skin irritations, breathing problems and internal upsets
  • Potential links to cancer
  • Links to ADHD

Look for foods with preservatives and additives included. Look at the food label and if you see a 3 to 4-digit number on the back, look for more natural alternatives. Numbers may range from 100 – 1522

What would you rather eat, a donut or a carrot?

Food companies spend a fortune on making our foods taste better. You would think that’s a good think having tastier foods, but it’s not. When the taste comes from harmful to our health additives, it’s far from good.

Our taste buds are being conned by the food companies, all in the pursuit of the mighty dollar.The food companies don’t care about our health and the governments won’t do anything to fix the problem for their own financially linked reasons.

We are being brain-washed or at least our brain is via our taste buds…

Bad fats

Limit foods high in saturated fat and eliminate trans-fat. Choose foods with good fats such as nuts, fish, seeds and oils like olive, sunflower and canola.

Monounsaturated and polyunsaturated fats are known to lower disease risks

Start Consuming these good fats…

  • Avocados
  • Dark chocolate
  • Fatty fish
  • Nuts
  • Fresh vegetables
  • Extra virgin olive oil
  • Whole eggs
  • Chia seeds
  • Real cheese (specially Parmesan)
  • Full-fat natural yogurt

If you want to lose weight, here’s the bottom line…

Stay away from these foods

  • Fried foods
  • Any type of soy product
  • White breads, pastries, pizza, cookies, cakes,
  • Products with added sugar
  • Margarine
  • Sweets and ice-cream
  • Low-fat yogurt
  • Junk food and take-aways
  • Processed cheese
  • Processed meats – Bacon, sausages, corned-meat and meats sold with added sauces
  • Coffee with creams and extra’s
  • Empty carb’s like rice, refined grains, pasta. Yes they have a place, but at the right time of day and in the right quantity. If you want to eat these, go wholemeal and wholegrain.
  • Preservatives and additives
  • Bad fats
  • Foods with high salt content
  • Any food that looks like it’s been manufactured
  • Unsupportive friends

Start eating these foods and drinks instead…plus the good fats list above

  • Raw foods such as greens and fruits
  • Plain old water, filtered if possible
  • Green and black tea
  • Skin free chicken breasts

The ideal meal plan is…

Small – you don’t need big meal sizes or as big as you think you need. Yes you may feel you are starving, but that feeling subsides after a while. That’s why grazing on small portions of healthy foods throughout the day helps.

Breakfast – one choice only

  • Whole grains with a serving of cut fruit
  • A protein shake before and after exercise
  • On the weekend – Half a serving of wholegrain toast with avocado, an egg, grilled tomato, mushroom and cooked spinach

Snack meals – one choice only – morning and afternoon

  • Hand-full of nuts
  • Piece of fruit

Lunch – one choice only

  • Salad by itself or with fish or lean chicken – no pre-packaged dressings
  • Lean chicken with spinach


  • Salad by itself or with fish or lean chicken – no pre-packaged dressings
  • Soups

Limit your meal size and eat smaller meals at night. Eat 4-5 smaller meals throughout the day (grazing). Don’t eat after 7pm and do not eat empty carbs at night. Potato, rice, pasta, bread.

I know that menu is limited, so slowly expand and make sure you stay within the range of healthy choices.


Before you start exercising, ensure you ask your doctor if starting an exercise regime is ok.

Exercise is difficult, and I don’t know where you are at fitness wise. If you currently don’t exercise, start slow with a brisk morning walk of about 1 -2 kilometres. If you find this easy, simply increase is. If walking is difficult, get a bike and find a safe bike path. Keep the water intake up.

Important note: Rain is not an excuse to not exercise.

If you are able to afford it, get a gym membership and a personal trainer once a week or join an outdoor bootcamp group. The great thing about either of those options is that the person in charge, will always push you in the right way and correct any incorrect exercise techniques as you go. You will always train yourself harder with someone, than if just by yourself.

Yes, it’s going to hurt at the start. No, let me rephrase, it’s going to hurt almost every time you exercise and that’s a good thing. I have been doing this for many years and unless I feel muscular pain for several days after, I know I haven’t trained hard enough and actually get disappointed if I don’t.

The after training muscular pain is now my friend. Crazy as that sounds, my pain tells me I am on the right track fitness wise. It tells me my body is getting fitter and stronger.

One huge advantage of exercise is the after effect you get. When you exercise, your body releases a chemical called endorphins. Endorphins trigger a positive feeling in the body similar to morphine. A natural high if you like.

This is why some people get addicted to exercise, which is a better thing than being addicted to food or the couch.

I’m assuming since you are still reading you are really serious about weight loss. Great, well done. You must have either a thick skin or my harsh comments pushed you in the right direction.

Losing weight is easy, simply stick to the foods to eat and stay away from those not to eat, and the kilo’s will start falling off.Start exercising slowly and build as your body gets used to it.

Starting a weight loss program is a fantastic start, but it’s just the start. It’s ok to lose weight, but there’s a much bigger picture out there than just weight loss.

It starts with weight loss, but soon you realise it’s also about improving other parts of your life as well. It’s about improving your whole life. Click here to find out more.

Congratulations, you’re still here and have reached the end.

Actually it’s not the end, it’s just the beginning as you will eventually find out…

What’s your excuse to not start right now?

Don’t you deserve better health and quality of life. Don’t your children deserve to see you at your best and to see you setting a good example.

Stop wishing you were in better shape, make the decision now and take action.

Send me your weight loss goals, your starting weight and a before image if you are game. I promise not to post it.

In fact, I am prepared to send further helpful info and recipes for your new life journey.

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